Wednesday, July 28, 2010

I regret, therefore I am.

The Boy asked me around 11 am if I wanted to go see "Inception" with him after work.

I did.

{Free porn at Inception. Um also- Can Leo get his overdo Oscar sometime soon please?}

And my mind is blown.

It's A-MAYYYY-ZING.

One thing the movie definitely touches on is Leonardo's character dealing with great regret (about what I will not tell you) but said feeling was palpable, consuming and overwhelming for him. And y'know what? I was glad to see him riddled with regret because I think it's an honest and perfectly normal emotion to feel.

However, it seems to be quite popular these days to have your mantra be somewhere along the lines of "LIVE WITH NO REGRETS"... la dee da... makes my skin crawl! Do you really have no regrets about things you've done? You really feel comfortable and happy with every decision you've made and wouldn't change anything given the chance?

Sometimes you flipped someone off on the freeway because you were late to work and being an entirely rude citizen that day. Nothing good came from that action. You were upset, you acted rudely and inconsiderately and you SHOULD regret it. Since when can we not regret things we've done? Can we not understand the value in regret and humility and know what we did was wrong? Is everyone so above that now?

I do give people leeway who say it- I GET the reasoning behind it. And I too believe that some things you shouldn't regret in their entirety: relationships, jobs, etc. Instances where you can learn, grow and prosper are not regrettable. But not every situation is some beautiful moment playing to Kenny G. Some things you do and put up with are things you SHOULD regret because they were, in every sense of the word, sh*tty and meaningless.

And herein are a few things I would take back... given the chance. Yes- things I R-E-G-R-E-T.

I regret filling up so heartily on appetizers on a date night with The Boy in his hometown that I got sick after finishing 2 bites of the expensive, delicious dinner he just purchased me. He was not mad of course but I knew better than that as I gorged on cheese fondue and he had put a lot of thought into our dinner.

{I threw up about 15-minutes later. No discipline for appetizers}
I regret getting too drunk at my Grandpa's funeral reception. I was going through an insanely hard time and clearly needed an outlet but I'm sorry it was that night I decided to throw common sense to the wind. My Grandpa was dear to me and always made me feel like the most special girl in the world. That's not how I would have liked to spend my remembrance night for him.
I regret that my go-to childhood insult to my sister was calling her "fat" because she had a chubby stage.

{Sisters}
I regret making fun of a girl who was being relentlessly picked on in 7th grade. I was raised better than that and usually it was my intention to seek out the outcasts and befriend them. But for some reason my insecurities were high that day and I took it out on her. I still remember her hurt face as I cowardly called her out with a crowd behind me. I regret that absolutely.

And I regret dressing only like this Sophomore year of college. HOLY HELL. REGRETS!

{Dub-T}

My point is ... you regret things. People should regret things. Please do not tell me you "LIVE WITH NO REGRETS*" (seriously, gag me) because I call a big.fat.bullsh*t on that one... regret it and learn from it, either way ob-la-di, ob-la-da, life goes on, bra.

Happy, Happy, Happy Friday friends!
Wishing you a fabulous weekend.

*Sidenote: I do not regret watching Jersey Shore tonight. :) Can't wait for this season.

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26 comments:

Mari said...

I really liked this post Caitlin...and that movie is stellar and yeah I think this is important that we know we make mistakes and learn from them and feel regret as well as having the confidence "no regrets" gives us to go out and do things LIVE

rinniez said...

My motto: live, laugh, love and never regret anything which once made you smile.
Ofcourse everyone will have regrets in their life but i think the point of the whole "no regrets" outlook is that people want to look forward, rather then reflect on the past.
I prefer the sayings/quotes etc. that say things along the lines of "you will regret the things you didnt do, rather then the things you did".
xx

Holly said...

I am on the fence about seeing inception...maybe if I can find a babysitter! Ha!

Of course there are regrets...how can there not be. No one can live their life so perfectly. I try not to dwell on things I regret, I think that is the key!

Katie said...

Totally agree with you. Everyone has regrets in life and it's silly to pretend you don't.

Claire Kiefer said...

You know what--thank you so much for writing this. I love this post. I've been thinking about this same thing lately, how so many people say "I don't regret a thing; I've learned so much from every mistake I've made." I'm like "ummmm, you may have 'learned,' but at the expense of someone else!!" If that makes sense. Of COURSE we should all have regrets, as we've all hurt other people at some point in our lives!

This whole post resonated so much with me. And the last pictures--the ones from college? Hilarious. Made my evening. ;)

this free bird said...

Happy weekend girlfriend! You really hit it on the head here. It would be NICE to live with no regrets, but we're human and going to make mistakes so of course there's going to be some. It's called the process of maturing.

xoxo,
carrie

Leia said...

I completely agree with you! None of us make the right decisions all the time, we DO have regrets and that's okay, as long as we learn from them.

Also, I'm DYING to see inception! We don't have a cinema here (can you believe it?!) but I'm going to London in a few days so I hope it'll still be showing there!!

Leia

Nathalie said...

Haha... still laughing over "the skirt is the size of a sock" :)
Your words are so true. There are things one mustn't regret, even if they weren't the best of experiences... but they somehow contribute to the person you are now. Nevertheless, my list seems endlessly long with the things I DO regret... wearing a pair of FILA shoes which were like tripple the size of my actual feet (vertically)... and the list goes on. I am totally with you on that, regret is a part of life you cannot blank out.
On another note... I cannot wait to see Inception. The trailer is so promising and I only hear good things. Did you see Toy Story 3? This is a movie I can recommend you, hehe
Have a fabulous weekend
*Nathalie

Nathalie said...

Haha... still laughing over "the skirt is the size of a sock" :)
Your words are so true. There are things one mustn't regret, even if they weren't the best of experiences... but they somehow contribute to the person you are now. Nevertheless, my list seems endlessly long with the things I DO regret... wearing a pair of FILA shoes which were like tripple the size of my actual feet (vertically)... and the list goes on. I am totally with you on that, regret is a part of life you cannot blank out.
On another note... I cannot wait to see Inception. The trailer is so promising and I only hear good things. Did you see Toy Story 3? This is a movie I can recommend you, hehe
Have a fabulous weekend
*Nathalie

Nathalie said...

ooh and even though I already wrote 3000 words... I have to say... can't wait for Jersey Shore either, but I think I have to wait a little bit longer until its on. Have a great evening :)

Ms. Emily Ann said...

Great post! ... and Inception really was fantastic! I can agree with most of your regrets, however, I did watch part of Jersey Shore last night - and I definitely DO regret it! haha..a huge waste of 35 minutes of my life!

Panty Buns said...

Wow. You are so fearlessly honest. i really admire you a lot for that and for having learned what you have while still young. Love the pics.

Rasha @ {andthisiswhatshesaid} said...

Inception was amazing!

I agree. people should regret things and I do! we ALL do.

Scrummys said...

I always liked the quote "Regrets are a waste of time. It's the past crippling you in the present" because I find that to be true. While you certainly can and should regret specific actions, it's not worth dwelling on them forever. You might hate me for saying this but you've got to learn from it. If it made you feel bad, apologize if possible and NEVER do it again. Great post!


LOVE LEO! So hot!
... movie was amazing too.

Islandia Lane said...

LOVED the movie and totally, we all have regrets - move on and deal with it, I tell them. :-)

Erika said...

Love you for this post, Caitlin! Seriously, every single time someone asks me "What do you regret in life?" The answer is always "Nothing." Mistakes happen - regrets shouldn't! :P

Happy, Happy Weekend, my love!! :)

Kara said...

Hahaha omg, "Boys and brains don't mix". Amazing and a half.

Great, great post Caitlin! And so true. I have a lot of regrets. I think people who are non-regretters fail to realize that regret isn't the worst thing ever - in fact, it's healthy so that you can learn what to avoid doing again! Admitting that you have regret means that you take responsibility for what you might have done wrong, and pledge to live a life without doing those things again. Let's not get into my list, but we'll just say that it includes dating a gay guy. Yep.

Jammer said...

Ok, I need to see Inception like NOW! If only to drool over Leo for 2 and 1/2 hours :)

http://jammer10am.blogspot.com/

Fleur said...

I want to see this movie so much and you made me want even more! I love Ellen Page and Marion Cotillard...
xx

A.Co said...

Yeesh, that's a tough one. I certainly have regrets, but I try not to spend too much time worrying about them (that's hard though!!). I think yes, everyone lives with regrets, but it's how we move past those regrets that really shape us. Did we learn something? Are we sorry? Do we KNOW it was stupid?

I completely agree with your post, C.

I also love those college pix of you (ehehe :) and your honesty.

You're awesome!! :D

A.Co @ A.Co est. 1984

Audrey Allure said...

So true, I think people who say they live with no regrets haven't realized their mistakes or refuse to confront them. Love this post!

And I definitely HAVE to see Inception soon - Leo looks gorgeous!

Kinsey Michaels said...

Your posts are so clever Caitlin! I loved Inception too, what an incredible movie! I have always thought the whole "no regrets" catchphrase was so cliche so I agree with you! It's normal to have at least some regrets! I hope you're having a fabulous weekend!

Krista said...

Nothing like confessional Friday! A big fist pump and GTL to ya lady! Hope it's a great weekend for ya with NO regrets!!

bananas. said...

i'm with ya sister. i don't believe everyone lives with no regrets. that's like impossible! even i have a couple regrets...the main one being something so personal that i rarely bring it up.

btw your sophomore year...yowza! doesn't even look like you!

Chic 'n Cheap Living said...

I like your attitude - regret and learn from it!

Sigh I fill up on appetizers all the time but they're so good!

Jaime @ La vie...J'aime said...

That movie was so good- i need to see it again soon. I've heard it all makes sense after seeing it a second time.