Monday, April 11, 2011

Cure both Cockiness & Insecurity: Be Confident.

Last Thursday night, my girlfriend Tracy and I threw the gym to the wind and scurried downtown after work to partake in Portland's First Thursday. There's food, there's art, there's wine, there's homemade jewelry... an admirer of anything creative would be a huge fan of this urban adventure.

One of the best places to visit on this monthly night is Lizard Lounge, which we quickly indulged in. They offer live music, cold beer, chimerical art and an eclectic mix of clothes and jewelery to browse or purchase. As Tracy and I made our way around the store, we stopped at a table to have a quick catch-up on our lives.

At this moment, a group of men seemed to be doing the same thing in a circle about 3-feet back from Tracy. As I faced to engage her, I happened to note a guy from said circle point me out to his friend with a "check her out" nod. The friend, humoring his buddy, turned to indeed check me out. After grazing his eyes from my head to my toe, he looked back at his friend with a "meh... she's alright" look. 

In that brief 10 seconds I was both complimented and insulted and you know what? It might be one of my favorite experiences that I've had in a long time. How wonderfully does that quick little incident explain life?

>>>Some People think you're great. Some merely thing otherwise.<<<

The important thing (and the reason that I didn't get excited when the guy thought I was pretty nor did I get upset when the other guy didn't) is knowing who you are, knowing your own value and having confidence in self.

And then, after that, just laugh. Because at the end of the day, humbling stories like that are what keep you grounded. No offense to Baz Luhrmann but if you do successfully remember all of the compliments you receive, there's no need to forget the insults.
After all, you can't win 'em all!


What's a humbling experience that you've had?

20 comments:

Katie said...

Life is a humbling experience ha, but seriously - you have a great attitude :)

this free bird said...

I love it. You could take it in stride because you know who you are and you love yourself so it doesn't matter what anyone thinks. Kudos gf. This is a grand realization!

xo,
C

Erika said...

I think you have achieved self-actualization. Just believing in yourself and knowing that you are fabulous - regardless what others may or may not think. :)

Megan said...

This was great Caitlin.

This reminds me of something I watched in an International Marketing class a few years back...it was a lecture regarding the word "REMARKABLE". Not everything everyone has to say will be positive, but the fact that they are even making a comment about it is flattering. The word remarkable technically means "Something worthy of making a remark over". I always take anyone's opinion as a compliment, whether it is or not...simply because they took the time to form one about me in the first place.

I am so happy you're confident enough in yourself to realize this already and you don't need anyone's approval to be okay with liking yourself. I just hope more people can learn from you regarding this :-)

Julie and Lauren said...

Very sweet! Love this post.
Xox

Tangles said...

I just loved this post! It's funny how one silly comment/look/etc. can bring you back down to earth, but then you realize that it doesn't matter b/c you rock! :)

Kinsey Michaels said...

so true. some people would let that incident bother them, but you totally took it in stride.
i can't think of any one particular humbling moment like that, but i commend what you took of the experience!

kirstyb said...

lovely post x

JessRaquel said...

I love that you guys have First Thursdays, we have First Fridays here in Vegas which is basically the same thing.

Humbling hmmm... Well I basically found out that I'm probably going to fail my Biology class this semester and I've never failed at anything EVER. I know that I'm smart and I can pass this class, I just need a different approach in tackling it. I'm humbled by the fact that I'm not perfect and shouldn't expect to be perfect at everything

Rick said...

I think we can all relate to the experience you shared. And, if it's possible, I admire you even more for your openness, candor and great attitude in response! :)

drollgirl said...

lol! well, you can't please them all! and that is just fine! i am guessing the guy that "meh-ed" you was NO ADONIS! lol

Ninjagaiden78 said...

Hey, it happens to the best of us.
I think your pretty alright.
Cool post.

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inHERshoes said...

people have different perspective of beauty. some people just feel good to put down others and that's their issue. like you said, just be you. the people who love you will accept you for who you are. just like those who still like you and your blog even though you told them you were glad the lakers lost. LMAO! your confidence will get you to place, my dear. and i'm talking about chicago, new york and every where in the world.

Jaime @ La vie...J'aime said...

i agree with katie- life, it's all humbling lol. i like that quote.

bananas. said...

this reminds of me the book i'm reading by tina fey...she talks about the time girls know when they've become a "woman" and it usually involves men checking them out and saying something like "nice ass!"

funny how those male pervs determine the way we women see ourselves. well sometimes...'cause obviously you're way more than "meh." what's wrong with that guy!

PorkStar said...

It shows too how mature you are.

Loved this post!

Raven said...

I love your posts. They are always so good to read. And you live in Portland? I LOVE Portland! I lived and worked at MT Hood Meadows ski resort one winter and went to Portland often. LOVE LOVE it.

Julia, the Thanksgiving Girl said...

Great attitude and the only way to go!! Knowing who you are, where you coem from and where you're going, and knowing your own value is what makes one confident, indeed!

Mandy said...

What a great post! I love your confidance and that is what shines through. If we based our personal outlook on what everyone thinks of us we would live in a sad, sad world. Thank you for the reminder :)

Leia said...

You are SO right Caitlin. I have always thought of you as a confident person and this post just proves me right! I love your attitude! :)