Wednesday, December 3, 2014

The One With The Proposal

For the TLDR'ers: We got engaged in NYC in November 2013. Yay!  

For the rest of you: So just a bit over a year ago, I got engaged. Obviously the day you get engaged should be inherently amazing but I really felt that mine was extra special (for me!) because it incorporated so many elements of what I hold dear (big northern cities, winter, Holiday season, big jackets, pictures, fine dining, etc.). So let's rewind, shall we?
^Engaged. 11/19/2013
Jay had an important work venture in NYC which we had known about for a few months. He travels a lot for work and I have never made a habit of going with him because a) I have to work as well and b) he's super busy when he gets to these places. But when I found out in August of 2013 that he was going to be in NYC, I started the conversation of me going. I mean- I love NYC (who doesn't?). I have been there too many times to count in my life but even so, it's never enough.

So one lazy night, we decided to actually book me a flight to accompany him. The plan was for him to work while he was there and me to venture off into the city and do nothing and pretend I'm a rich housewife from the upper east side. Pretty perfect to me! However, we mapped out a couple days at the end of the trip to spend time together in the city with no work commitments. I don't know how to explain it but during this conversation I could just tell that the wheels in his head started churning about using those days to propose. 

 Needless to say, I was very anxious and excited for the trip.  Prior to our departure I texted my Sister declaring that I thought he might propose, she just wrote back "Omg, really??" then never asked about it again (because she knew). I knew if she wasn't in on it, there's no way she wouldn't have sent me a million more questions so I felt even more nervous and assured in my guess of what was going to happen.

I'm already a horrible packer but knowing that he was going to propose to me sent me in a frenzy to ensure that I had the best outfits for such an occasion. I questioned my hair color, my dresses and my shoes to no avail only to remind myself that I was being insane and I could perhaps be wrong about him proposing. So I gathered what I could, stuffed it in a suitcase and hoped for the best. 

We soon arrived in the city  and my suspicions were again confirmed about him proposing when he:
  • Stowed his suitcase every night (instead of having it exploding with clothes out in the middle of the room per the usual trip).
  • Freaked out when I unzipped said suitcase to iron his clothes.
With Jay working the beginning of the week, I spent time perusing NYC with no agenda and even got to spend a wonderful day with my beautiful Aunt Barbara and Cousin Olivia (xo you two!!). It was bliss. It also allowed me to wrap my head around the fact that my time as a single gal was rapidly ending. I hadn't been truly 'single' in awhile yet I felt a complete shift leaving the 'dating' world and entering the 'engaged/married' world. It's a finality (in some respects) to your true youth. I spent a lot of quiet time on the subway and walked the expansive blocks and each venture was scored by my inner dialogue about the upcoming events. In retrospect, spending time alone in such a creative landscape like NYC was likely one of the best ways to say goodbye to that part of myself and welcome the new chapter that was rapidly approaching. Being married has been great but I have always held dear my independent self and was never a 'I NEED A RING ON MY FINGER' girl, so I wanted to quietly think about that for a bit.

 Before I knew it, it was the morning of 'our day'. As I sat on the floor in front of the mirror with my makeup encircling me and my hands tirelessly trying to fix my D.O.A. hair (my life story), Jay arrived with two mimosas in hand and said "happy morning!". Alright, this was THE day. I needed no further validation.

Our plan was simple: Bergdorf Goodman for lunch & Central Park for a walk after. At BG we enjoyed seared scallops and a delightful white wine ("I can't have a mimosa with breakfast people, I'm on vacation!"). After that we rushed out into the Plaza courtyard where Jay proceeded to sprint toward the carriage drivers shouting "LET'S GO ON A CARRIAGE RIDE" -Normally, that would be something he would 'agree to' but not think of on his own and (quite literally) sprint to.
^And we're off! Starting the carriage ride with our 'driver' (what do you call them?) Ian.
Needless to say, as we took off on the carriage ride my heart was beating incredibly fast like I was the headliner in the sappiest rom-com that ever sapped. The moment came and it was something I will never forget even though neither of us can remember what the h*ll he even said.
^We got engaged in Central Park at the Bethesda Fountain. Ian took our pictures. That's us with our horse, Charlie Brown.
Can we please discuss my nails? Let me just tell you that I HATE having painted nails. Hate it. Well, I actually don't hate having painted nails but I hate all that work for basically 1 day of cute color before it starts to chip. Therefore, my nails are always plain and drab and mannish. Whatever, I'm okay with it. But the morning of I frantically realized that I would take pictures of my fingers with the ring so I reached in my bag for whatever sh*tty nail polish I would have had stowed away from years before. Alas, bright blue. So, I will forever have proposal photos that look like I got engaged circa 1995.
Immediately after we headed to The Peninsula hotel where we ordered our first official cocktail as an engaged couple. 
^My nails, hah. Have you ever seen anything so tacky? Cracks me up.
Followed immediately by a champagne toast at the regal King Cole Bar in the St. Regis Hotel:
And finally we arrived at The Plaza. I mean, I knew why I wanted to go in there but as Jay eloquently stated later: "I knew it was important to incorporate the Plaza into your engagement night because of your love of 'Friends' and 'Home Alone 2'." That made me laugh for days. Yes, I love that show and movie so much but I wasn't banking on the fact that my engagement reflected any of that or else I'd be SO MAD. lol. But that was sweet.
^Probably my favorite picture of the day
^The iPhone photo we 'released' online to the masses as our announcement. Somehow the lighting made my nails look black.
And I will truly always cherish the afternoon/evening after as we roamed NYC, newly engaged, our phones vibrating with well-wishes from friends and family as we toasted our new life in various restaurants (Champagne at the Plaza has always been a lifetime dream of mine!). It was just one of the happiest nights of my life.
^Even more champagne waiting for us back at the hotel. I needed some Tylenol the next morning for sure.
^That's my favorite camera travel bag but it doesn't quite go with my outfit. OH WELL.Us outside The Plaza.
Guests of the new celebrity Ding-Dang-Dong stay at the world-renowned Plaza Hotel, New York's most exciting hotel experience.
^Heading home to our hotel on the Subway, ring in tow.
^Random iPhone captures.
I know New York City is a town of renters but I love that I now own a little piece of it to carry it with me always.


Panty Buns said...

My eyes teared up some whilst reading the romantic saga of Jays proposal to you and seeing all the photos documenting the proposal, acceptance and celebration in Manhattan. That engagement ring is gorgeous and looks like it really throws the light. I know you love chandeliers and that photo of the two of you by the chandelier with all those huge vases of flowers and the entire Plaza Hotel for that matter looks beautiful. The photos of the actual proposal by Central Park are beautiful too. You were both dressed impeccably for the occassion. I like Jay's colourful dress shirt and pinstriped trousers and your dress and fishnets. I think blue nail polish is still in style along with a myriad of other colours, but who's even looking at the nails? I was looking at that beautiful engagement ring! I like the photo of your and Jay's reflection (at The Peninsula Hotel?) where your hair looks Katy Perry purple. It's nice that you have so many lovely photos documenting that very special time. It was very, very romantic. I love it.

Jax said...

First off, I die for you ring! Omg, it's gorgeous!!!! Secondly, (and I'm totally not trying to steal the show here), I eeped when I read this because I got engaged in Central Park too!! Well, my story isn't nearly as romantic as your story is, but we oficially have something in common. He bought me tickets for a cruise around Manhattan (we live in Nassau county), but we missed the boat. We ate dinner at Little Italy and the food was horrible. He panicked and decided he wanted to go to Central Park at 10pm. Long story short, his plan back fired and he ended up proposing amongst all the hobos on the central park benches at night! And, no, there were no attempts at jumping us for the ring, but we did high tail it out of there. haha

You guys make one good looking couple and I'm so glad that you had a magical moment. :)

Pat Hatt said...

Now that is sure an engagement to always remember. haha that was fun of him to, to incorporate home alone 2 in there, I remember when you were near the house, so now you got the plaza, gonna sneak to that toy store next? lol

Lindsey @ The Hill House said...

Love it! What sweet, sweet memories he created for and with you. Good job to your hubby!

Caitlin @ Candyfloss & Persie said...

@PB- Aw, thank you for your sweet comment!!! You are always so thoughtful.

Caitlin @ Candyfloss & Persie said...

@Jax: haha, aw! that's a romantic story, I love unexpected twists like that. Make for great memories.

Caitlin @ Candyfloss & Persie said...

@Pat- Great memory!! And ooo, good idea :)

@Lindsey- thanks dear!

Kara said...

I'm so glad you wrote this post!!! I loved every single moment of it! What a truly magical engagement (right down to your neurotic freakout, lol!). Engaged in NYC in the fall? Carriage rides? Champagne? Ahhhh.

Unknown said...

My heart explodes! I envy every single detail of this day. My favourite spot in the whole of Central Park and THE PLAZA! That boy of yours did good... real good! :)

SMD @ lifeaccordingtosteph said...

I totally love this entire post. The photos, the thoughts on leaving your single self behind...I never dreamed of getting married or having a ring, so it was a little weird to leave that old girl behind even though we'd also been together for a long time - 8 years - before we got engaged.

I died laughing at the nail polish because my nails are always painted and when I hear someone has gotten engaged, silently to myself I say PLEASE GIRL I HOPE YOUR NAILS ARE ON POINT.