Wednesday, June 3, 2015

Dressing Myself for the Life I Have Now

Sometimes I think I'm fairly guilty of gearing my mind to the future and thus not appreciating the today. I have a lot of goals I want to accomplish. And I am constantly working with my husband on one very particular goal that I've been trying to achieve for awhile (Only because on edit I realize it sounds that way, I feel the need to clarify: This has nothing to do with kids). As much as I believe in the core of my gut and with every inch of my soul that these aspirations and hopes for the future are good, at the same time, I think I need to realize the gravity of what is happening every day in the life I live NOW. Not the one in the future. Not the one I write about in my journal. The life I have at this moment. And I have a zit today so this blows as the day I use this example. But to try and keep a consistent message: Omg guys, I'm just seriously #sograteful & #soblessed for this blemish.

Anyway, it's kinda like the advice they always give on "What Not To Wear" to the women who are refusing to buy stylish clothes until they get to their elusive goal weight. Thus resigning themselves to schlump because they're hoping Prince Charming (aka their better life/job/weight ... whatever that may be) to come. Stacy & Clinton always tell these women to snap out of it, wake up and appreciate what is happening today. Today is your life. "Dress" for YOUR life.
^Celebrating one of my best friend's engagement with more best friends is joy. Pure, happy, milestone joy. And it happens in the life I have now.
So as I constantly pursue future goals and look past what is now, I really need to remind myself that future goals that haven't happened yet don't necessarily mean that life as I know it today isn't as fulfilling as it is. It's a heaping serving of love, friends, family & memories. And only a callous, ungrateful b*tch wouldn't recognize that (while she quietly looks east to the future).

Have you ever tried to balance your 'future self' with your 'current self'? What does that look like for you?

15 comments:

SMD @ lifeaccordingtosteph said...

For a LONG time I lived in the future but realized I was missing something and that something was today and the small things. I have to work to stay rooted here but it's worth it!

Lindsey @ The Hill House said...

Ugh, I am not very good at doing this whole balancing thing! I try, but I fail miserably at it. I am constantly thinking about tomorrow, even before today has really gotten started. But you are correct; the today has just as much joy and happiness and potential as the tomorrow. I mean really, wasn't it just yesterday that I was so looking forward to today? Why pass it up for tomorrow?

Lauren Farrow said...

Very good advice. Live in the present.

Jax said...

Yes, love this!!! I'm constantly forgetting to NOT live in the future and prepare for TODAY.

P.S. I really hope Stacey and Clinton are best friends for life and that they bring that show back.

Amanda Elizabeth - Meet @ the Barre said...

When I moved out of my condo I had to let go of a ton of clothes that I still loved (and fit into) but they just weren't my style or where I was in my life anymore. It was sad to let them go but now I have a wardrobe that fits me and has great staple pieces! :)

Miss Caitlin S. said...

@Steph- it's definitely a balance, I'm glad you enjoy your work! Makes such a difference.

Miss Caitlin S. said...

@Lindsey- my feelings stated perfectly (and a little more efficiently) :)

Miss Caitlin S. said...

@Lauren- well I'm not that good at it, trying to work on it. ha.

Miss Caitlin S. said...

@Jax- I know. The show is sorely missed by me. I loved it!!! They were always so funny.

Miss Caitlin S. said...

@Amanda- getting rid of clothes is a whole other arena, ha. Good for you!

Meg Taylor said...

I really like this idea, Caitlin!! I've definitely been guilty of wearing high school and college clothes for a few too many years, when I need to dress like the job I want, not the job I have. My boss used to say that one, and I really liked it. Thanks so much for stopping by my blog. You're a "no-reply" blogger, so I couldn't reply to you directly, but still wanted to say thank you!

Pat Hatt said...

Living for today is great, as the future can change in an instant. But still nice to have goals.

Robin said...

I try hard to not get caught up in future events. I can easily waste an entire day that way. I like the idea of dressing for yourself now. There is no reason to punish yourself in the present, when the future is not even guaranteed.

Miss Caitlin S. said...

@Robin- very well stated!

Karrine Beasley said...

Hahahahaha my mind jumped straight to kids in that sentence too, glad you clarified!!
Living in the present is so important, but so often easier to say than do! Great post!! :)