Wednesday, September 23, 2015

8 Things I Regret

No one wants to embrace regret anymore, do you notice that? Most people I know will push that term to the side in favor of the more poetic "No regrets!! Every mistake molded me into the person I became!". Yeah, yeah, yeah ... 

Don't get me wrong, I think there's a TON of merit to that mentality in many arenas. I don't regret any past relationships as I do sappily feel like you leave with parting gifts that shape your future mindset (good & bad). I don't regret a lot of youthful decisions even though I wouldn't make those same choices now knowing what I know. I adore that they left me with hilarious adolescent memories before I even knew (or had to know) how to function like a grown-up. Some dumb/bad/hard decisions are definitely worthy of being in your life as a secret blessing all the years moving forward.
But can we all just stop pretending for one little second that EVERY choice we made came with a deep and poignant message. Face it: Some things you did (or didn't do) sucked and were bad ideas with no redeeming quality. That's just life. So let's open the door wide and invite regret on in to the table. Take a seat, podna'. You have a place in my sphere. Here's some things I regret so much that if I could do it all over again, I would immediately change:

I regret tanning.
Dude. They shouldn't let 16-year-olds tan as much as they possibly can or want to. Because that's gonna be err'y day. I was a young girl who always could muster up the $11 and lie about running to the store really fast. As much as I love the look of a faux-tan, I sincerely regret the damage to my skin for no reason. I kinda blame you, Britney for making me love and want to copy you. 

I regret not going abroad.
I will never understand what was going on in my head when I didn't actually sit down and PLAN when I was going abroad in college. I went to a host of seminars on the topic, had a little folder marked "GERMANY" in my room (as if that would get the ball rolling) and then just never took any actual steps to go live in another country as a student for pennies. What an idiot. 

I regret making fun of that girl's capris in gym class that one day. 
I was not a mean kid growing-up, not at all. So this was so out of character for me but I remember walking into the locker room in 6th grade to see this known "uncool" girl (she's probably like CEO somewhere now) dressing back up for class. She was wearing these sweat pants that were kinda tattered and cut off mid-calf. I remember seeing her, seeing "cooler" kids near her and decided to impress. I said "I like your pants Elizabeth, they remind me of my shorts". The insult was incredibly stupid but she knew it stung. Her face was so sad as she tried to keep it together as everyone laughed and I have never forgotten how mean and awful I felt in that moment. I hope if she ever sees me again, she spits in my face. I'd high five her. 

I regret complaining about & during family vacations when I was a kid.
Oh, Caitlin- I'm sorry you're bored at Glacier National Park and want some Goldfish crackers to the point of stammering your feet and tears. How else can we accommodate you on this vacation where you don't have to bring any money, all your food is prepared and given to you and I've also taken the liberty of packing you a sh*t ton of entertainment so you're happy during the boring parts of the traveling. Did I mention this is my only summer vacation this year before I head back into the office to continue to provide for your life in every single way? Sincerely, Your Parents [at least that's how I imagine their inner dialogue during this time].

I regret not taking college seriously the first year.
How hard would it have been to go see a college guidance counselor and have them actually tell me important classes to take? Rather than finding out I took a bunch of courses that did nothing towards my degree? Time & money well spent!

... OR not taking my hair health seriously freshman year of college due to being broke.
In the vain attempt to remain a blonde while having about 30 cents to my name, I resorted to the grocery store bleaching hair kit where you pull strands of hair through a cap and then throw clorox on your head for 5 hours. NBD. At the end of freshman year, my hair definitely looked like this. 

I regret not taking a personal finance class when I was 19.
Oh, you mean all those magazine subscriptions I signed-up for actually affect me if I just stop making payments because I'm over it? 

I regret being so awkward about this blog.
I'm the weirdest blogger. Using this as an outlet brings me a lot of joy but I have a lot of trouble talking to people about the fact that I like to blog. I don't know, it all feels so ... [if you could only see my awkward face as I type this]... but I don't need to be in hiding about it. I'm not about to broadcast it everywhere but I need to stop being so weird about talking about it! Actively working on this one.

How about you? Pony up- anything you just good, ol' fashion regret?
[all images are mine]

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24 comments:

Pat Hatt said...

Weirdest blogger? You mean you top a guy pretending to be a rhyming cat? Damn, go you lol

As far a regrets, we've all got a few indeed. But then if you look at things and not in the hippy dippy way lol if you didn't do such a thing you would not be where you are now. Life would have a different path and you may regret not doing what you did instead of what you regret not doing or doing now. It be flipped around. So meh, you'll have regrets no matter the path, may as well just live with them.

Jax said...

Omg I'm all about regretting tanning. I totally have premature wrinkles from it. I'm so not ready for this!! I also had a spot removed two weeks ago to be biopsied. Biggest fail ever.

I also regret not taking college seriously. I was always distracted with school or my latest fling. As a result - I'm 27 and still working on my bachelors. Deep, DEEP sigh.

Jax said...

Oh and the fact j blog is a HUGE secret. Besides my husband and real immediate family no one knows. Why am I so embarassed by something I love?!

Kristen @ See You In A Porridge said...

i 100% regret tanning - i never went to tan places (they are illegal at home now) but i sure as shit laid out in the sun for hours and hours with the missing hole in the ozone layer and pretty much guaranteed myself skin cancer. if i could turn back time and change anything, i would have travelled more as an 18-22 year old. i don't mind travelling now, just think it would have been easier and a different experience that young.
i was never a mean girl either, i was the one they picked on, but sometimes i would be mean to someone if the mean girls were picking on someone other than me, because i thought it meant i was free from their bullying. hahahaha no.

Simply Alexandra // My Favorite Things said...

Whew, glad I found your blog, I was rummaging through Disqus with no luck! baha.

Hmm regrets... certainly not traveling abroad. Bad flossing skills in college... Not asking a friend who betrayed me to leave my wedding party. Not buying Ellie Goulding tickets for a small venue a few years ago. And all the sunburns.. despite my best efforts. #palestofpale

XO,

Alexandra

Marie said...

There are so many things in life that I now regret that I don't even know where to begin. Perhaps, I should do a post about this. I have quite a few regrets.

Caitlin @ Candyfloss & Persie said...

@Pat- that first sentence made me legit laugh out loud. hahaha.

@Jax- oh yes, tanning, grrrr! And I totally feel you about the secret blog, ha!

Caitlin @ Candyfloss & Persie said...

@Kristen- that's so awesome they are illegal in Australia! They really should be.

Caitlin @ Candyfloss & Persie said...

@Simply Alexandra- ooo, flossing is a good one!

@Marie- would be a good read!

yana koh said...

Everyone hv regret in their life...i regret not able meet my father his last breath....what to do....life goes on...need move on...

Bijoux said...

Not one person I know IRL knows that I blog. Not one. I get freaked out when bloggers start talking about meet ups! LOL

I regret not having a professional photographer for my wedding. Would have been worth the big price tag. I also regret not traveling more before we had kids.

Stevie Hanna said...

loL! I LOVE this post! About time we brought regret back onto the table! Of course we all have regrets! Just to name one, mine would be finances too ...wish I knew how important credit was, built it up sooner and saved instead of spending on dumb things that I don't even own now?!

Panty Buns said...

Oh, hell yes! Looking back and remembering all the decisions I've made and things I've done, sometimes I wonder whether I've ever made any right decisions, or whether I'm jinxed and it would have turned out wrong no matter what I did. It's true that there are many beautiful things I loved that wouldn't have happened if I'd made other choices. It's easy to drive oneself crazy second-guessing it all. When it comes right down to it, knowing how things turned out, I wonder what would have happened if I'd made different choices, or whether I would have been happy doing something else. I thought about poying up and saying "Bless me Caitlin, for I have sinned", but naaahh.. I'm gonna punk out, do a bit more blog reading, watch some NetFlix and forget about it all. :) The photos in this post are gorgeous!

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Laura Darling said...

I totally agree with some of these! Especially the personal finance one, and the one about taking college seriously! I'm happy with my life now but sometimes I do wonder how different it could be!

Kate at Green Fashionista said...

Can I just co-sign this entire list? Especially fake-tanning, complaining about family vacays, and not taking my first year of college seriously. Oy to be young again :-P

Amanda - Voyage of the MeeMee said...

YES to the tanning. I have hyper-pigmentation up the wazoo. I know I should consider myself lucky compared to what could have happened, but it's annoying as all hell to cover up all the time.

Kati Rose @ Constantly Seeking Wonder said...

I definitely agree with the studying abroad. While I loved so much about my college experience that is something I never did and I often find myself wondering what I would've learned and how I would've grown if I studied abroad. If I ever go to grad school that's one thing I want in a program if I'm at a point in my life where it allows it.

Caitlin @ Candyfloss & Persie said...

@Yana- aw, my hugs to you.

Caitlin @ Candyfloss & Persie said...

@Bijoux- hahah, that's like me! So funny.

Caitlin @ Candyfloss & Persie said...

@Stevie- preach! you figure it out but it'd be nice to know right as you enter adulthood.

Caitlin @ Candyfloss & Persie said...

@Laura @Kate- word to both of you!

Caitlin @ Candyfloss & Persie said...

@Amanda- ugh, I bet I have issues that haven't even surfaced yet from it. So stupid!

@Kati- I know, I wish I had so much!

SMD @ lifeaccordingtosteph said...

I was never weird about blogging - I share the links daily on my personal facebook page and always have - but when people actually speak to me about it to my face, THEN I make a crazy awkward face. LOL

I am a everything has brought me to where I am person, but I do regret not studying abroad in college, not keeping up with exercise in my 20s, and spending too much money on stupid crap that I had to then spend a lot of time paying off.

Karrine Beasley said...

So with you on the last point! Most people in my life know about my blog and I have a facebook page linked to my blog that a lot of them follow but I just hate talking about it face to face or in front of new people. I think it's because I know a lot of them can't understand how I can spend so much time on it or why I would want my thoughts out there for anyone to read. Each to their own I suppose.