Thursday, June 16, 2016

Hug Thy Neighbor

Hi guys,

How are you? Are you doing okay?

Minus my pre-scheduled post on Monday (or as someone more efficient would call it: my scheduled post), I just haven’t had it in me to blog this week. The gruesome events in Orlando are too much of an elephant in the room.

I decided many moons ago to stop posting political thoughts on Facebook. With a caveat. If I did decide to go political it would be in a positive tone e.g. I LIKE this person vs. I HATE this person. I’m FOR this vs. I’m AGAINST this. Why? Because frankly, I can’t take much more of the political maelstrom that is the Facebook newsfeed. It’s as if everyone thinks that everyone else has lived life with the exact same set of experiences, ideologies and associations as everyone else. No longer can you think or express a thought without someone completely summarizing who you are as a person. It’s toxic, it’s obnoxious and I’m sick of witnessing it. Opinions! Opinions! Opinions! If any of this was met with civil discourse online that would be one thing, but I think we all know the reality.

But then, something like Orlando happens and I have a really strong opinion myself about a certain aspect of it. And I’d like to shout it from the rooftops. And shake people who I feel are doing a disservice to this epidemic. I want to be that annoying person online commenting people’s endless memes (I have not and do not) and prodding with opposing viewpoints. Because it makes me so ridiculously angry due to the fact that these losses make me so insanely SAD. And the thing of it is, I know they make all of us sad yet for some reason, we are unable to get anything effing done about the horribleness.
^VIA Jay's phone

So I decided to not get into these conversations online and I haven’t. Therefore, my blog wasn’t going to reflect anything about this larger discussion we should have about these issues. At the same time, it feels a bit forced and shallow for me to post here as usual about the stupid things I do and the clothes that I wear during such a significantly sad week.

All I am willing to say online is let’s continue to try to love one another and create an atmosphere of respected discourse. I really feel that that might be the key to a lot of this. Nothing seems to get done because everyone is so arrogantly positive that what they say or believe is wholly right and there’s no wiggle room available.$%*@$.break. People from all walks of life and sides of the aisle are literally dying. Are we really that married to our political allegiances that we can't look to each other and our opposing experiences for solutions? 

Ugh, I don’t know the solution – but please, let there be more light.

My thoughts are with everyone and especially with the LGBTQ community. I’ve been heavily onboard with gay rights since I was a kid and never unwavering in my support of their community. Thankful that I’m in a city that embraces them wholeheartedly as I am positive they need extra hugs this week. Heck, I could use one myself.

More positivity and light-heartedness on Monday, I promise.

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Mattie @ Northwest Native said...

I am one of those people who sees a headline or something on Facebook that I agree with and I make the stupid mistake of reading the comments (I don't comment myself, though). I do it on headlines I don't agree with too, I guess, to see if there are people in the world arguing against whatever it is. And then I'm happy there are other people on my side. But I also am discouraged by all the arguing. If you dare post your opinion, people are going to try to change your mind completely and it's just pointless arguing. I don't know. Ugh.

(Note: My brother is gay.) Yesterday I was thinking about how I found out he was gay by finding his MySpace, and he had written one of those MySpace blog posts that said, "My mom sent me Starburst jelly beans and Skittles (taste the rainbow) for Easter. Think she knows I'm gay?" And I had no idea at that point (I was in like 8th or 9th grade) so I commented, "Why didn't you tell me?!" and that was that. Literally nothing changed in our relationship otherwise (well, except when we watched movies and stuff together later we could talk about how hot the actors were). And anyway, yesterday when I thought about that I was so happy that I was raised to be fully accepting of all people.

Nadine said...

I just cant with social media anymore. I have stayed away from it all week because ignorant people infuriate me. It is ok to have differing opinions, but when people spew hate and intolerance I have to walk away.

Samantha said...

I don't do social media because people act like orangoutangs on there! Seriously, doesn't matter what's going on in the world. People are dumb!!

SMD @ lifeaccordingtosteph said...

I thought humans would have evolved further than we have...but I'm continually shown that we haven't.

Ashley Lillis said...

I had a friend that literally deactivated her Facebook during the last presidential election because of all the "opinions" that were flying around Facebook and people being downright rude to each other because of their differences in opinions. I don't like posting anything political on Facebook either because of that. Everything that happened in Orlando is just so sad!

Kristen @ See You In A Porridge said...

it makes me so sad that something like this happens, and it outrages everyone, but nothing changes.

Pat Hatt said...

Yeah, I stay clear of all that. You are never going to make internet trolls see any kind of light. By engaging them you just further their delusion. Ignore and they have no one to talk to but themselves. Pretty pathetic how people can't be more accepting. If more people thought, "That's my opinion, but hey, I just may be wrong, so it's good to listen to other viewpoints" be much better all around.

Kate at Green Fashionista said...

Ugh social media is both a blessing and a curse. My beautiful city is hurting right now, but I love how we have all come together with nothing but support and love. And can we talk about how much I love that pic from your husband's phone. Just beautiful <3

julie @ said...

Where to even begin...? All of those individuals who hate so much on a race, the LGBQT community, etc are no different then ISIS in my opinion... But we are ALL human beings and we all have to live here together. Let there be more love, light and understanding. Sigh.

Jax said...

I can't even watch the coverage on this story. Between this and the alligator, I've been hiding from social media. It's beyond scary, devastating.

Kaitlyn Danielle said...

You’re so right! Everyone in this world has an opinion that they feel they need to voice and what does it do? Absolutely nothing, except fill the world with more disheartening negativity. Social media can be so toxic. Sometimes I wish they would do away with the comment sections. It would be such a relief to get on there and not have to see all the BS. I wish we could find the solution to the attacks taking place on American soil. It’s scary to think tomorrow, it could be any of us next. You just never know anymore.