How are you? Are you doing okay?
Minus my pre-scheduled post on Monday (or as someone more efficient would call it: my scheduled post), I just haven’t had it in me to blog this week. The gruesome events in Orlando are too much of an elephant in the room.
I decided many moons ago to stop posting political thoughts on Facebook. With a caveat. If I did decide to go political it would be in a positive tone e.g. I LIKE this person vs. I HATE this person. I’m FOR this vs. I’m AGAINST this. Why? Because frankly, I can’t take much more of the political maelstrom that is the Facebook newsfeed. It’s as if everyone thinks that everyone else has lived life with the exact same set of experiences, ideologies and associations as everyone else. No longer can you think or express a thought without someone completely summarizing who you are as a person. It’s toxic, it’s obnoxious and I’m sick of witnessing it. Opinions! Opinions! Opinions! If any of this was met with civil discourse online that would be one thing, but I think we all know the reality.
But then, something like Orlando happens and I have a really strong opinion myself about a certain aspect of it. And I’d like to shout it from the rooftops. And shake people who I feel are doing a disservice to this epidemic. I want to be that annoying person online commenting people’s endless memes (I have not and do not) and prodding with opposing viewpoints. Because it makes me so ridiculously angry due to the fact that these losses make me so insanely SAD. And the thing of it is, I know they make all of us sad yet for some reason, we are unable to get anything effing done about the horribleness.
So I decided to not get into these conversations online and I haven’t. Therefore, my blog wasn’t going to reflect anything about this larger discussion we should have about these issues. At the same time, it feels a bit forced and shallow for me to post here as usual about the stupid things I do and the clothes that I wear during such a significantly sad week.
All I am willing to say online is let’s continue to try to love one another and create an atmosphere of respected discourse. I really feel that that might be the key to a lot of this. Nothing seems to get done because everyone is so arrogantly positive that what they say or believe is wholly right and there’s no wiggle room available. Give.me.a.&#$%*@$.break. People from all walks of life and sides of the aisle are literally dying. Are we really that married to our political allegiances that we can't look to each other and our opposing experiences for solutions?
Ugh, I don’t know the solution – but please, let there be more light.
My thoughts are with everyone and especially with the LGBTQ community. I’ve been heavily onboard with gay rights since I was a kid and never unwavering in my support of their community. Thankful that I’m in a city that embraces them wholeheartedly as I am positive they need extra hugs this week. Heck, I could use one myself.
More positivity and light-heartedness on Monday, I promise.