Monday, November 14, 2016

President Trump

The election taught me that I live in a bubble. 

That's not to say that my bubble is better than your bubble. Or your bubble is better than my bubble. Or that anyone's bubble is worth more than anyone else's. It's just to say that I lived in my own world. Because I really did not see the end result coming and I truly didn't think it was plausible that he would win.

I want to be very clear about a couple things. 1) I generally do not like to post online about politics but this election warrants a venting session. And 2) that as I've aged, I've found myself more in the middle of the road when it comes to politics. I love the ideals of the democratic party but I think they're best met when challenged against conservatism. I think somewhere in the middle is where we want to be. I am not a fan of extremes and think checks and balances are the way to go. In fact, I like people with a healthy dose of skepticism. I think the biggest problem in politics is when people are so blindly loyal to their party that they can't reasonably envision a solution that deters from that narrative. Anyone who places 100% blame on someone but refuses to give them an ounce of credit for good they have done is the type of political peer I try to avoid. I strive to utilize that reasonable approach when I look at the political sphere.

I've always liked Donald Trump. The TV Trump. The NYC businessman Trump. The AGREES-TO-BE-ROASTED Trump (anyone who agrees to be the subject of a Comedy Central roast is far braver than me). The helps-Kevin-Mcallister-find-the-lobby Trump (do you think I would fail to mention that blessed movie?) He was amusing. Direct. Funny. I think that started to sizzle with the birther movement. It wasn't just what he was asking but the repugnant way he went about it that made me see him in a different light. And those qualities not only continued but seemed to be on steroids as he ran to be our president. I started to feel appalled as things fell out of his mouth. I was particularly horrified at him diminishing the judge, insulting the Khans and mocking the disabled reporter (please tell me he will at some point apologize for that last one. It was beyond low). Living in a city, I am surrounded by ample diversity in every form. It enhances San Francisco, it doesn't depreciate it. A melting pot of backgrounds is what makes this city so vibrant. With that in mind, I just assumed most everyone else was surely seeing the same thing I was from this candidate.
^My text chain of like-minded girlfriends made the day pretty exciting. We all sent each other pics in the morning of us in our pantsuits as we scooted off to work.

But they weren't. And somewhere along the way, I not only failed to notice the strong message from Trump that others apparently did but I went deaf to the idea that anyone else was even hearing one at all

But, evidently, they were.

I had long decided to work from home the day after the election. Partly to avoid the negative discourse that was sure to be rampant but also because I figured I would need some quiet reverie to absorb the fact that we had just elected a female president. Turns out, I needed the day to simply digest what had happened at all. Because I woke up feeling exactly like this political cartoon. What had just happened? And how had it happened?

^Jay and I met up downtown at lunch to hit the polls. Our buildings are literally direct neighbors, which is so random considering we are in way different industries and the enormity of the city. But it's such a treat.

I've come to this conclusion: It is what it is at this point. I respect the process and I accept him as my president because he was rightfully voted in and very much earned his win. I hope campaign Trump is different than President Trump. I really hope I'm wrong about what I'm picturing in my head. I hope he succeeds. I hope he's a wonderful president. I hope he can bring his business acumen into the system in a positive way. I hope much of his campaign trail was an act. I hope he values diversity as a lifelong New Yorker inherently should.

The people have spoken and I'm willing to listen. I won't stand for anything that reflects a "fear of the other" and I'm ready to speak against anything that looks remotely like it. Buuuuuut, I'll start with an open mind because we have not seen him as president just yet. So I'm nervous, sad and still a bit perplexed - but I'm rooting for him. I'm rooting for him because I'm rooting for us. I have to be able to say that I gave him a chance. And really, he deserves a chance because the American people gave him one.

^Sparkles in my eyes that morning to see a lady do the d*mn thing.

Please do us proud. All of us. Every last one of us.

And for goodness sake, apologize to the reporter.

[and thank you, Hillary. For nobly making herstory and igniting a fire. Casting a vote for you made me walk a little taller that day.]
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Nadine said...

Yours is one of the only political posts I have read in the last week because I just couldn't handle all the negativity last week. I can appreciate that while you didn't vote for Trump you wish for him to succeed. I am there with you in wishing for him to do good because then we all win. The whole country wins. There are always people who are going to be upset that their candidate lost in every election. I don't understand why people feel the need to go out and burn flags and destroy cities this time around. The man deserves a chance since half the country did vote for him.

Kristen @ See You In A Porridge said...

i agree with everything you said. i honestly never even considered this outcome and i think that is why i am still in shock. i hope he proves us all wrong, i hope he apologises and i hope. i just plain hope.

Kate at Green Fashionista said...

Could not agree with you more, I'm still shocked too but honestly didn't want either of them. I'm also middle of the road, and really wish we could get away from this 2 party monopoly system. But it is what it is at this point, and like you I'm hoping he'll prove everyone wrong and make our country proud.

Hope you have a fabulous week gurlie <3
Green Fashionista

Ashley Lillis said...

Thank you so very much for this post! I really think that people on both sides were shocked when he was elected President, but even though he's not who you wanted to win, I love the fact that you are still rooting for him to do the right thing because that means rooting for your country. I think that there's a lot of people forgetting that right now, and if he fails that means that we fail as a country too.

SMD @ lifeaccordingtosteph said...

I am hoping for the best and preparing for the worst. With the appointment of a white supremacist chief advisor and radio silence on the acts of hate that have burst forth on the scene last week, my hoping for the best is yellowing at the edges.

Pat Hatt said...

People who vote for "their" party no matter what I just roll my eyes at. The middle ground is best but too much yelling to ever get there it seems. As for Trump, a lot of hoping going on. I hope he is waaaaay less of a buffoon as president that he was when he ran for it.

Mattie @ Northwest Native said...

Yep, metropolitan areas on the west coast = major bubbles. I lived in my little bubble and definitely didn't expect this result. I'm fearful for the rights and safety of many groups, whether or not their mistreatment is at the President's hands (because some of his supporters are already carrying out despicable acts). Still hoping for the best, though.

julie @ said...

What a healthy attitude to have, really great post on this contentious subject... To berate and condemn him as President is no worse then the other side. I am shocked too that he was elected and I can't say I'm not scared of heading back home later this week, even if home is NYC and it is liberal in nature. But hey, I'm not white... Let's see..

Ellen Ross | Ask Away Blog said...

YESSSSS to this whole post. and i admit i didnt see it coming either lol!
XO Ellen from Ask Away